Back in the day, it was considered normal to be physically reprimanded when you did something that was considered wrong. Who your parents were, and how egregious the act was that you committed determined what was used. Whether it was a hand, a belt, a switch, a wire, a shoe, a hanger.... you get my drift.
Now in 2022 many parents, have decided against using physical measures to reprimand their children. Some believe the punishment itself leave a longer lasting effect on the child then the original act they committed. Believing that communicating with the child and using other restorative practices lend quicker to changed behavior. While other parents feel when you spare the rod you definitely spoil the child.
Please use the comment space below to share your thoughts, any pros or cons, or experiences related to the topic and feel free to comment on others responses.
Additional questions to consider:
What are the pros or cons to hitting/beating your children?
How were you reprimanded as a child and affects (good or bad) did it have?
Does beating/hitting your child change behavior?
Does beating/hitting your child cause your child to make better decisions because they have learned or out of fear?
What would you do the same (or different) when it comes to reprimanding your children from what your parents did?
PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL OF OTHERS VIEWS. WHILE THIS IS PLACE TO SHARE... REMEMBER WE DO NOT HAVE TO AGREE.đ
It really depends though. Iâve had conversations with people who believe being physically reprimanded as a child has molded them, to be the discipline adults that they are today. However, some others feel different, as to where they feel like theyâve been traumatized and built with anger from constant beatings. I honestly believe SOME parents believe that was the best way to discipline kids and maybe because some didnât know how to communicate, well with their children. I think i would do it a bit differently..communication is key. I need to understand why you did what you did & Iâm def gonna explain where you went wrong. Best believe theyâll be a punishment, but behind that, I wouldnât want to beat my kids to the point where they have severe bruises. In my opinion, itâll only traumatized the child even more & I feel like my kids would not want to come to me for if there weâre to have any issues outside of the home. I want my child to be able to open up to me without fear and I want to be the mom that they can trust.
I can count on 1 hand how many times I spanked my children. i often spoke to them and let them know what rhey did and how they disappointed me. I also let them know they not only let me down but themselves. I taught them accountability and responsibility early. i also learned that you cant discipline two children the same. It wont work because their personalities vary so the effect will too